Can I press charges?

This sounds like something best resolved by negotiation rather than legal involvement.

Can i get a restraining order?

This sounds like something better handled by negotiation than by an attempt to get law enforcement involved. Cornell may even have some resources...

Does child support end if child enlists in army? (This is in NY..support to 21)

Yes. That is considered emancipation.

Father with a record

That depends on what evidence is presented at a hearing on visitation.

There is no statute of limitations on a QDRO. Lexington (I assume that's who you mean) seems to be well qualified.

How much will a divorce cost if everything is agreed on.

It depends on what state you're filing in, whether there is property or pension/deferred compensation to divide, and on whether you use an attorney...

Child Support Collection Enforcement

It would be extremely unusual for a plan not to comply with a properly served court order. You should not interpret that as agreement with the...

I have been seperated from my wife for 8 years iam on public assistance and i can't afford a lawyer i want a divorce

You can try to work your way through the forms on the court system website.

What is the next step to get the judge to see the father is not making proper choices?

You'll have to get to a fact finding hearing at which time you can present any relevant evidence. You may want to hire a local family law attorney...

Father lives out of state never met daughter Father calls once every 6 months. No custody in place. **If my 8 year old is as

This isn't a lawyer problem, it's a family counselor problem. Most children in these circumstances will have a natural curiosity about their...