If we have 2 houses and he is never at home and I have 2 kids for him. Can I pick which house I want to remain in.

You can' act unilaterally. You can reach an agreement.

Spouse has exclusive occupancy of my apartment that I inherited. My children are living there with her pente lite.. I'm

Custody is not determined solely on financial stability. If you work overnight how are you going to be able to take care of the children?

My case is almost schedule for a special referee .. Trail for a contested divorce

You can try to handle your own case - but if you're going up against an attorney you're going to have a very difficult time.

Should I do a do it yourself divorce or hire a lawyer?

Conversion of the settlement agreement or irretrievable breakdown - either will work.

I am filing for a divorce. Will I be stuck paying Alimony to my spouse? I will give a brief below of my situation.

That's not enough information to determine possible spousal support - but if he's refusing to earn money that he could be earning it's unlikely...

I have gone back and forth with my ex and get no response from my attorney.

Have you retained the attorney for this? Most divorce lawyers' retainers terminate upon the delivery of the judgment of divorce.

Dissolution in Lincoln county. I signed a joinder as to the divorce decree which says grants relief to the petition.

Playing procedural/service games is extremely risky and can end up being self defeating. Contact a local attorney and see if you have grounds to...

How is this situation usually handled?

It can be held up for quite some time with that kind of litigation - with two people who don't really understand procedure battling each other....

DO NOT! pay off loans without discussing matters with a local attorney. You could end up giving away half your inheritance that way...

Engaged, yes. Married, no. But it's not a good idea if your divorce is anything other than uncontested.