Separation clarification and City Lawyer ?

No. It does not qualify as a separation unless there is a signed separation agreement.

It is typically served by first class mail. However, if you are a party you can not serve papers in your own case.

Yes. If the change is a violation of the Domestic Relations Order the Order can be enforced through a motion in the appropriate county's Supreme...

How can I get a divorce ?

It's not impossible. You (and/or your attorney) will have to do a diligent search to see if the spouse can be located. If not there are procedures...

What happens when my date of separation in my papers is different from my ex husbands papers by 2 years?

You check the courthouse for a copy of the papers that were filed...and if they weren't filed you check for initials on each page of your and his...

Ex never returned Certificate for engagement ring as stated in divorce Agreement. He had 30 days

Your settlement agreement may have a procedure to follow in the event of default by your ex. If so you should follow it; it may contain a...

Can he? Yes. Is it proper? Different question- and it depends on whether the motion has any merit. One caution: contacting the judge to...

You're not likely to get answers from the fund office - it's not their responsibility to deal with drafting a Domestic Relations Order. Indeed,...

Divorce Stipulation says he was to take my name off mortgages within 180 days or I can force sale and he has not yet?

The appropriate response is an Order to Show Cause in the post matrimonial part seeking to enforce the Settlement Agreement.

I have been separated (not legally) for 12 years. Does that change any of the rules for divorce? I am 65 and disabled

No. It makes no difference that you have been living apart - if you want a divorce you have to follow the same rules.