If you and your spouse agree to divorce (amicable) can you use the same lawer?

You can - but it's a bad idea. One lawyer can not represent both sides in a divorce.

If your spouse (husband) decides that he is going to move to Florida from NY after divorce can I then move to a different state?

Yes.

How many months is a upstate year in NY state?

Seriously?

If I use my pention to pay off my home and then my wife files for devorce.

That's not enough information on which to base advice. Is the pension a marital asset? Is the house? Consult a local divorce attorney and discuss...

My husband wants a divorce. I cannot afford an attorney as I am and have been a stay at home mom for the last 2 years or so.

Child support, certainly. Legal fees and spousal support, probably. You should call a couple of local divorce lawyers and discuss your situation in...

I have a 2 year old and wanted to know how i can take parental rights away from the father?

He may try, but on the facts you present he won't get very far. If he files a petition you should get a local attorney and respond in court.

Joint legal custody means joint decision making. This is one of those areas where trying to litigate pro se will be very difficult.

Extend and Modify Temp Order of Visitation due to health issues

It depends upon the circumstances. You should discuss the situation in detail with a local attorney.

Can I file a small claims suit against ex landlord for illegally evicting my family?

Anyone can file a suit for anything - but it's hard to understand what your claim is.

No one can "override" a docket - but you're probably misusing the terms. Consult a local attorney to discuss your situation in detail.