All you can do is go to court and defend against the allegation. You should NOT be talking to police officers. You should be talking to a local...

How do i go about filing for joint custody?

You contact a local attorney and make the appropriate filings in court.

Can a married women who live in Va, sue a women who lives in Pa for alienation of affections ?

Yes. The law allows it no matter how little it helps.

While legally married in NY am I allowed to use my maiden name on a job application/resume?

Yes. But your potential employer may find it confusing or worse.

How can I obtain a QDRO?

You don't have to pay a lawyer - but you may find it difficult without one to draft a QDRO and get it approved both by the retirement account...

How to represent oneself when spouse has filed for divorce with an attorney due to lack of funds.

No, a letter is not sufficient. The answer is a formal document.

How much will the divorce cost?

That depends - contested? Not contested? What is involved?

How long does it take a divorce to finalize so you can remarry in NYC?

There is no waiting period after the divorce is finalized - but how long it will take will depend upon the county in which you file and the backlog...

Uncontested divorce???

Yes, you can. If you have a business and property to divide you may want the assistance of a local attorney.

How can I make sure that my wife is tried for adultery?

You can't. This is the 21st century, and you live in New York City. The Queens District Attorney is NOT going to file criminal charges. You...