Can I get pro bono/cheap legal support to file a motion for unpaid child support/care and for a potential future custody trial?

You can certainly interview other, less expensive lawyers. But here, as elsewhere, you get what you pay for.

How long will it take for divorce to be finalized

The summons is the start - but what happens after the summons is what determines how long the case takes.

The judge has that authority - but it's rarely exercised in that fashion.

I was served a summon in february 2013 how long after that will the divorce be finalized

That can't be determined based solely on the date of filing of a summons.

Home repairs during divorce. Can repairs be stopped?

Without an attorney to make the proper motions you'll have a problem.

I need to know how to get a divorce

You don't even need the proof. If you want a divorce, contact a local attorney and file.

I did not answer a summons ,''Action for divorce'', as there is no kids or house . he has been gone for yerars . What happens no

Presumably he can move for a default judgment. The agreement - if properly drafted and executed - may be used as a basis for an economic settlement.

I live in NJ and my divorce and custody was done in TN. what are my rights as a non custodial parent?

That's not enough information on which to base a precise answer. Consult a local attorney and discuss the issue in detail.

I have health insurance through my spouse ( company policy) does this continue after divorce. I live in NH - he works in Ma.

It does not continue after divorce. You can obtain COBRA coverage.

Divorce with mental issues involved

That's not enough information on which to base a precise answer. Consult a local attorney and discuss the issue in detail.