I need a lawyer?

Yes, you need a lawyer. If you're facing contempt allegations it would be prudent to arrange an immediate consultation.

What you need to do is get new insurance...and deal with your divorce issues through your lawyer - get one if you don't have one.

I have been separated for 8 months, while the divorce is ongoing, can I live-in with my new girl friend pending final judgement?

Yes.

Why would the attorney be calling your employer? Your attorney should be able to deal with this...

What do I do, if your spouse has your back against the wall and is intentionally trying to hurt you and the children?

Get a lawyer. Now. Don't post stuff on the internet.

How long does it take for the judge to sign divorce papers once they have reached his desk?

That depends upon the judge. As to enforcement: you can make a motion.

If my husband i separated he inheritance 1/4 of a home am I entitled to it in divorce and any money he may receive?

Inheritance is not subject to equitable distribution.

I started a divorce and now think i should file bankruptcy can I do it? the judge aware maintai to my husband can that be

There isn't enough information in your post on which to base an answer. Consult a bankruptcy attorney and discuss your situation in detail.

I have a home in PR. We got our divorce which was done illegally in PR. The divorce was not served on me.

Is he in New York? If so, go to the police and explain - and have him arrested. But when you say "we got our divorce" - that sounds like you...

Can you transfer a divorce decree from another state?

You need to seek to modify the existing divorce decree or agreement, not transfer it. Consult a local attorney and discuss the situation in detail.