I had a same sex marriage in South Africa, Can I get a divorce in NY?

Yes, you have to divorce to remarry, and yes, you can do it in New York. Divorces have been granted in New York for several years to same sex...

Equitable distribution of personal bank account in a divorce

That depends upon the circumstances. Is it a joint account? What money is deposited into it?

Is there help out there to get a divorce and retain my birth name without having to pay large fees?

An uncontested divorce is not expensive - and reverting to your maiden name is a routine part of the divorce process.

Pension and 401K split

One half of the value accrued during the marriage. If there was money in the account(s) prior to the marriage that is not divided in a divorce.

I'm new to NY, I don't meet New York residency standards, will I have to fly to back Georgia to file for a Divorce?

If you live in New York you won't meet Georgia's residency requirement either.

I am trying to get my divorce yet how ever I have an order protection. I have no address or a clue to where he is.

Get a lawyer and get the paperwork going. It's not a problem that you don't know where he is.

If father pays half of down-payment for home purchase could that be considered income?

No, it's not income. It's either an investment, a loan or a gift.

My father recently was thrown out of the house HE owns by his wife. She has now filed a restraining order against him.

He should get a lawyer and get the order modified.

Which court should I sue in?

You don't sue - if she's supposed to pay, seek enforcement in the post judgment matrimonial part in Supreme.

That depends. What happened to the account and why was it closed? Why would you want to not disclose? Was the account open at the time the case was...