I have a QDRO that was done in the divorce papers. My ex is retiring.

Make sure it is properly filed with the pension fund or administrator of the retirement asset which is the subject of the QDRO.

Am I getting bad legal advice?

It's impossible to tell without a full analysis of your situation. If you're concerned, you should seek a second opinion from a local attorney.

I was married 35 years ago and separated 5 years later. I never divorced and recently heard ex died. I never filed for divorce

You can check the records in the courthouse in the jurisdiction in which he lived, and, depending upon the state involved, you may also be able to...

You need to do this through the family court in your county. You may wish to consult a local family lawyer, or you can just go to the County...

I am a green card holder recently divorced from us citizen want to marry british citizen? please suggest..

Get a license, get married. What's the real question?

Divorce after 9 yrs seperation with out his consent ??

You must make a diligent effort to locate your spouse before attempting to serve by publication. In New York service by publication requires...

Does a court order supersede a judgment?

If the defendant is in compliance, what would the judgment be for?

Being forced to quit

There are several issues raised in your post, but you don't provide nearly enough information to form an opinion on them. Demeaning you is not...

What are the laws for removing children from NYS prior to a legal agreement?

Without a court order one parent can not do anything to interfere with the parental rights of the other.

What is the best way for me to get a divorce in New York State?

If you're in agreement as to the grounds for the divorce there is no need to go through separation. There should be a pro se clerk in your county...