Can the court force you to wear your wedding band?

It's urban legend. Not true.

My husband left me two years ago and will not help me pay the joint dept. do i have to get divoreced to get this money from him

You may do better suing him. You should discuss your situation in detail with a local attorney. Divorce courts tend not to look back into how money...

Do i make the final decision on health care for my son if i have permanent custody?

Not necessarily. You have to examine the wording of your custody order. There often is a distinction between physical custody and decision making...

My 18 yr old son's father says now he will be paying support directly to my son. Can he do this?

No.

No fault divorce

If your case is filed on October 15, you should be OK.

I want to get my 4 month marriage over with. Do i get anulled? or divorced?

It needn't be costly - but it can't be an annulment unless your marriage was induced by fraud.

That's less of a divorce law question than a marriage/relationships question...and I'd agree that a counselor may help. If you need a divorce...

Regarding divorce

Divorces in New York are handled in State Supreme Court. What paperwork you will require will depend upon your situation, and whether there are...

Do I have to file in the same county I got married?

No you do not have to file in the county in which you are married unless you are currently a resident of that county.

Temporary hearing

Financial disclosure is required from both sides in a divorce, and being caught in a lie will not help his case.