have you spoken to her lawyer? Its the judge who has to modify or remove the TOP. Her attorney should speak with the DA to try to develop an...

The conviction will show up, not the failure to complete restitution.

Does accepting a "nolo" plea trigger a potential parole violation in New York the same as a plea of guilt on a new charge?

Its does not sound like a conviction, but parole violations are fact based, and not nullified by a dismissal of charges.

I was arrested for marijuana possession in New York State,but was not represented by an attorney

Absolutely, but the problem may be lack of proof, since you waited almost 40 years to speak up.

There is no criminal element involved in this scenario.

Warrant from Florida and it’s been 4 years ago we live in nyc how can I fix

You will have to personally appear in Florida, unless you retain a Florida attorney to try to investigate the situation and see if appearance can...

If he was arrested yesterday he should have been brought to court by now. Check with the local criminal court.

Can I be charged with theft

No, but you can be sued for breach of contract.

Can the really stay with the money?

When you posted bail, you signed an agreement with the bondsman. Read the agreement. It will state the fee.

I’m on probation for unlicensed operating a vehicle in New York State but I live in Georgia can they transfer me tomy home state

Most states do not accept transfer of misdemeanor probation. Speak to your PO.