I was given 5 years but my probation officer told me I was good so I don't have to report any more that mains I'm done ..

Reporting is only one condition of probation. You may still be on probation and until you get formally released, act accordingly.

You appear to have violated one or more of the conditions of your parole. You may be violated or you may get lucky.

A record check would disclose your arrest (yes you were arrested, just no sent to jail) as your case has not yet been dismissed. The court can...

You are not required to be truthful at any time other than when you are under oath or speaking with a Federal agent.

How can I help him

He must be arraigned before posting bail. Try to find out who his lawyer is and arrange to cooperate.

Can I sue NYPD for kicking in my door with my children there

More facts are needed, but if they damaged your property, handcuffed your children, and terrorized them, you need to speak with a civil rights...

I am getting married soon and i am currently on probation. does my spose have to take part in cimp???

Most likely if you are forbidden to have or use a computer, the computer will be monitored. Ask your PO.

I was locked up for 2 days for 155.25 165.40 240.26

You may have a lawsuit for false arrest.

How do I change the lawy he has now ?

If he wants a new a lawyer he can hire one, as can you if you can afford to. If it is a free lawyer, an appointed lawyer, its a bit different, as...

Am i "indefinitely" subject to the lautenberg laws of not being able to possess a firearm if i was convicted of nys pl 215.50-3?

New York does not expunge. I do not know Lautenberg and doubt it has any effect on police employent.