Can I get protection or even charges filed?

Speak with the police or the DA. If there is a real problem, they can be of help.

How much jail time can this person get for harassment and threats?

Aggravated Harassment is a A misdemeanor and carries a maximum of one year in jail.

Assuming both parties were human and consented, its perfectly legal in New York.

Unzipping your trousers in public may be inappropriate, but it is not criminal.

When I allowed to defend my family and I?

A close question which unfortunately would probably only be answered after one of you got arrested and charged. In NYS you have a duty to retreat...

He can't..........................................................................

Driving no license and under parole

He could be sent back to prison to serve the balance of his sentence

Is it not illegal to lie to police and give false statements to police and lie under oath?

Lying under oath is still illegal. That may change soon, but as of today, its still a felony, assuming the lie is relevant and material.

Small crime. Do i need to be home for search warrant or can police break down my door?

Most search warrants will allow the police to enter with out you being there. The police generally do not announce their intention to search...

What can happen if accused of making a restricted phone call to my ex when she has a temporary order of protection ?

As answered elsewhere, you face a maximum of one year in jail. Get a lawyer....