No, you can not. You can, however, initiate a divorce action yourself. Speak to a local attorney about your best options.

How?

The facts you presented pose complications, but you will be able to get divorced and get custody of your daughter. I think it is in your best...

If the original divorce was officially withdrawn, you will need to re-file and get a new index number. I suggest contacting a divorce attorney...

Do i have to go back to court if my son wants to come back to live with me?? Will a notarized letter suffice??

You need to petition the court for a modification of the current order. Child support obligations may change, as well.

Can I use the do it yourself divorce papers for an uncontested divorce in new York state if I was married to the same person twi

Yes, you can use the online uncontested/DIY divorce papers to file for divorce. Best of luck.

What grounds for divorce would be my best option?

You can file a no-fault divorce. Even though the divorce seems like it will be uncontested, I would suggest at least hiring an attorney to review...

What are the steps I can take to get a divorce?

Because you stated that your husband has been abusive, I do not recommend that you file for a divorce without retaining an attorney first. It is...

How hard is it to hand over temporary custody of a child

A minor can not "hand over custody" of themselves.

Is it better to go to court while trying to set custodial rights? or mediator

Which parent pays child support will depend on who is the primary custodian. Any agreement made in mediation will need to be court ordered for it...

Legal age children can stop visits with dad?

Both parties, and their children, must abide by the custody and visitation agreement until the children are of-age.