Pamela Mary Sloan

Although Pam has practiced family law in Manhattan for more than four decades, she eschews the notion that she “has seen it all,” and is committed to treating every client, every family and every matter as unique.

Pam is widely recognized as being both a straight-talking, formidable negotiator and a skilled, tenacious litigator. She is known by her clients and her peers as being a careful thinker, a clever strategist and a creative problem solver who brings not only her intellect and skill, but also her empathy and humanity, to both the negotiating table and the courtroom, whether the matter is a highly charged custody matter or a fiercely contested complex financial matter. Pam believes bombastic and ill-mannered lawyering does not equate to tough lawyering; her experience shows those behaviors most often result in unnecessary emotional and financial costs to the client. Pam believes the best results for her client come from knowing the facts and the law, listening to and understanding the opposing side’s position, looking for reasonable compromises and, when necessary, standing her and her client’s ground, in both negotiation and litigation.

Pam is an active member of several prominent bar associations, in which she has held various leadership roles. She is a former Chair of the Family Law Section of the New York State Bar Association and a former Chair of the Matrimonial Law Committee of the New York City Bar Association. Pam served three terms on the Judiciary Committee of the Bar Association of the City of New York, which screens judicial candidates for Federal and State courts. She is a fellow of both the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers and the International Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (currently serving on its LGBTQ Committee). She is a member of the Family Law Committee of the American Bar Association’s International Law Section. Pam has also served the legal community for many years by frequently lecturing to the bench and bar on family law issues.

Pam is rated “AV” (the highest rating for both competence and ethics) by Martindale-Hubbell. Since 2003 she has been listed in the “Best Lawyers in America” (Woodward/White). In every year since 2006, Pam has been recognized in New York Super Lawyers (Law & Politics) as one of NYC’s top 100 lawyers in all categories and as one of the City’s top 50 female lawyers.

Chambers and Partners, the respected British legal ratings publication, has ranked Pam, along with her partner, David Aronson, in “Band 1” of individual New York family lawyers; AM&S as a firm is one of only two New York family law firms to be ranked in Band 1. Chambers describes Pam as “excellent” and a “wonderful woman whose interpersonal skills are great.” Chambers sources say “she is smart and knows all the rules, but it’s those client skills that are so important in big divorce cases, and she is great at advising clients when in the tough situation of divorce” and “she will have the biggest clients and often acts in the biggest cases.”

Unrelated to her professional practice, Pam is a committed volunteer who, over the course of many decades, has served on the boards of several local and city-wide community service organizations and schools. At present, she sits on the Board of Directors of the Women’s Housing and Economic Development Corp. (“WHEDCo”) in the Bronx and on the Board of The Bishop Loughlin Memorial High School Foundation.

Pam is a life-long New Yorker. She was born and raised in East Flat bush, Brooklyn. She and her husband live with the youngest of their four children in Pelham, New York.