What is my recourse?

The first question is were you arrested? You can sue your neighbors and they could also get into trouble for filing a false report with the police.

What is the law definition? Can he or I be responsible?

Yes you can sue him. If anyone claims to be injured you can also be sued as the owner even if you weren't driving.

What's my fate .? Caught shoplifting and possession of burglary tools.

It's unclear what your actual charges are. Jail is possibly but unlikely. It will depend on your prior records. 4 years is not a long time.

Can a 2002 conviction of a DWAI Alcohol VTL 1192 SUB 01 (in NY) be expunged? It shows up on my FBI report.

DWAI is a traffic infraction not a crime. Nowhere does it say minor There is no expungement in New York except in very limited drug related...

Can I say sorry?

The best thing to do is leave it alone. Don't take any chances.

A BAC isn't need for a conviction but it helps the DA. is their a video? If so, how do you appear on it? Unsteady gait and slurred speech won't...

Are the police likely to investigate my debit card being cloned if the amount of unauthorized charges is less then $ 200?

Illegal Skimming devices are typically added by third-parties. Yoi should advise your credit card company about your suspicions.

What can I do besides the obvious/ Will i definitely get caught?

You need to face it and tell him. Offer to hire and lawyer and return him on the warrant.

Is there jail time if I lose trial on an A misdemeanor charge of stalking?

Your lawyers can tell than an A misdemeanor carries a penalty of up to a year in jail.

Arrested 7.5 years ago in NY for suspected cannabis consumption but never charged, how does this show on background search?

If you were not fingerprinted and it does not show up on an FBI background search, it will not appear on a search for a medical license.