motion to compel seems the right way to go. It will get you before the judge and will allow the judge to make a ruling that is not going to take...

Do I ride this out until trial or file motion for judgment to end this based on mothers actions thus far.

Unfortunately there is not enough information here for a lawyer to provide you with any guidance. The problem is that the question you ask, while...

Am I responsible since the loan closed 1994 we were not the servicer?

If the amount is sufficient to make it matter to you, I suggest you find counsel to help. I assure you the DB will have counsel and good ones.

I need to ask leave of court to add two doe defendants...can I serve the entity's agent for service or do I need their addresses

John or Mary Doe defendants are usually do you know good. When you know the names amend your complaint as quickly as possible. However, describe...

Ways to get mom a copy of motion.

??? time to seek help from the court clerk or a professional....there is hardly sufficient information here to provide an answer.

What can I do? Can I file a small claim lawsuit on him for the property damage?

Sure...the small claims clerk will be able to help you with the forms and the papers ...

Can a NY attorney represent me via phone even though I'm in FL? Will it be another phone hearing or just a review of the audio?

Unless your attorney is licensed in Florida or get a waiver he cannot represent you in that State.

Is it legal for the University to ban appeals related to dormitory damage? Additionally, can the school withhold transcripts?

There has been much written about university discretion on internal discipline and the field is murky. A good lawyer would help here.

Is there anyway I could speed the process?

What process? What application? Specifics would not hurt.

You move forward by having it reversed on appeal and since that can be technical a lawyer would be most helpful