Child support and addons

Not really. If there is a fee from the day care above what is garnished you would still be responsible for your share.

My ex-wife voluntarily refuses to work thus I have to pay 100% of child support. Can anything be done because I am paying alot

If you are paying the basic child support amount according to the formula then her income is irrelevant. It is only relevant as it would pertain to...

Divorce

You have to file as married but you can choose to file separately or jointly. There is no law that says that you get a divorce in 2 months in NJ.

Should I file for joint custody before my ex denies me visitation or files for sole custody?

You should your visitation schedule in a court order. File a petition so that your rights are enforceable.

Is it enough if my husband (us-citizen) writes a statement that I ( greencard holder) can have sole custody of our kids?

A court order. He would need to stipulate to it and have it court ordered with permission for you to leave the country with the children.

Regarding a Order to Show Cause and a Temporary Restraining Order.

Order to show cause is a vehicle by which relief of many types can be requested with more expedience than a motion. One can request a restraining...

Can you request past alimony in NJ?

You can make the request. Did you request support in the complaint? If you did not it would most likely be from the time that you filed the petition.

The evaluator is not a judge it is an independent party that is havering information and compiling a report with an opinion based on the...

I'm from and am currently in New York, but was married in, & technically live in L.A., can I file for divorce here in NY?

You need to have lived in New York for 2 years in order for New York to have jurisdiction over your divorce.

Will getting a job now, (before filing for divorce) effect my chances for spousal support?

Yes. It will very much effect your spousal support. Speak to an attorney.