Can i check if my ex-husband get married someone before he divorced me?

If you know where he lives then you can check if he married there.

See above Thank you

If you do not show up and you are the petitioner the the case will be dismissed.

What can i do to stop this

Hire an attorney and make sure she does not leave the state with your children. Moreover if she is an alcoholic and you think the children are not...

What's right does a husband have to prevent a wife from taking his children away in the above circumstances?

If wife seeks to relocate without a court order husband should get an attorney and fight to prevent her from leaving the state with the children....

I was not married in the United states so can I get married again in Las Vegas or will I have to get a divorce first?

You need to get divorced if you were married anywhere in the world and wish to marry someone else.

How can I get my spouse to pay my expenses in a contested divorce case?

No. In this case neither of you actually earn more than the other so it is unlikely that you will be awarded attorneys fees.

If you believe there is some ethical violation by an attorney then you can file a complaint but it will only be accepted once the case is finished.

Fee waiver for a contested divorce

Yes. You can file a request to have the fees waived. It is called poor persons relief. The forms are available on the court website.

Can nys DSS be held responsible for this. sorry no room to write everything out, please help tho i feel like my life was ruined

No. There is no basis here for any action against DSS.

How can I resolve this situation? I plan to leave NY but I need a birth certificate for driver's license, etc. Please Help!!!!

You need to deal with vital statistics. Unfortunately this is not an issue that attorneys can help you with.