Its legal for the other party to contact with judge singly? because i smell it?

You need to hire an attorney asap. Prose is not advisable.

In a domestic violence case in criminal court, can the order of protection be removed at the first hearing after arraignment ?

Your attorney can ask, but i doubt it will be removed.

What are the chances I will be able to relocate to Long Island with my newborn ?

If you are being abused you need to seek a restraining order.

This is the wrong practice area it should be under civil litigation.

You need the consent of the father.

How can I know if my husband got married after me, how I proof my marriage in the States?

You should contact a lawyer and file for divorce. Your foreign marriage is recognized here.

Can a father even get custody of child in NYS?

A father can get full custody if there is circumstances tat warrant it. It is on a case by case basis.

Can non custodial parent be court ordered to become custodial parent?

The courts cannot force a parent to take custody and care of their child if the parent does not want to.

What should I expect at a Preliminary Proceeding?

They may do so it is not uncommon for that to happen.

How do i get my back child waived that i Been paying her under the table already?

She can sign and notarized a statement that says she was paid he amount they say is owed and she can go to the support enforcement unit with you...