Can my wife do this to my court ordered visits?

You may need to retain counsel in Texas to help you.

Recovery letter

Without knowing the contents of the letter its impossible to answer the question.

What will happen to me or can I get sued if I go back to Jordan ?

You would have to ask an attorney in the Hashemite Kingdom.

What do I do after I get sole custody my child?

I'm not sure why you would want to reopen the can of worms.

When I find an apt to move out can I take my son with me with out involving the court for now until I get settled??

You can, but he might do the same. You need to strategize and make sure your ducks are in a row before you start. Please speak to an attorney to...

Get an extension and serve him when he comes back.

Does it matter who goes to a lawyer first in a child custody case?

No, there is no extra credit or points given to a party if they seek counsel first.

No. Poor people are allowed to live in a one bedroom dwelling.

I strongly suggest you retain counsel, and hire an attorney to help you in your hearing. You will need to get your evidence admitted as evidence....

Technically yeah, if she defaults. But in normal course, you cannot throw your hands up and say, "I'm divorced." Please speak to your attorney.