If I go to my parents house and take my things can I be arrested?

If they are yours you can take them.

Can a VT based business sue me for non-payment if I reside in NY state?

Of course they can sue you. Just because you guys are in different states, doesn't mean that you are judgement proof.

Can my step sister have my father's ashes buried with her mother and his children not be notified?

Whoever is in ownership of the ashes, decides where it goes.

Can I liquidate half of my 401K to my ex-spouse in cash, without touching my 401K?

You guys can agree on whatever you want. Its a shame you waited 15 years.

Is my husband entitled to any personal property in our home if he moved out 18 months ago?

His stuff is his stuff. You just can't get rid of it. Contact him, and figure out a way that everyone gets to get their stuff.

What happens if I donT go to the custody neutral assessment ordered by the court?

Unfortunately, the way Court works is to make it difficult for everyone to make them want to settle. Many times its a good thing. The problem is...

I Hav sole legal custody of my daughter. My ex has court ordered supervised visits with her. He has been left alone with her

You have an attorney. Speak to your attorney.

Speak with an attorney, and get good counsel, and proceed accordingly. Protect your child.

How do I transfer the house into my name only (have my husband's name taken off) prior to finalizing the divorce?

Your attorney should be doing this. There should not be any taxes for this.

How can I get the rights of my sons father terminated?

It will be very difficult, and you may not succeed even after spending allot of money.