I started receiving government assistants in 2011 and my children's father was also on my grant why are they charging him.

If you were collecting benefits, they will go after him to repay them for the benefits in lieu of child support.

To provide a more stable home, do we have a good chance of getting the custody/visitation modified?

It really depends. It sounds like you'll get it modified, but to the detail that you wish, you really need to speak with a local attorney who can...

Now that you have gotten ACS involved in the case, its like a bad disease, they won't leave. Once they are involved, they are there to stay. You...

What legally can be done in this situation?

If it happens over and over you may wish to try to convince the police to investigate this, however, in most cases its a waste of time. People do...

I have a full stay away order against my sons grandmother in NJ. Can she still get visits from NY family court?

Full stay aways, stay in effect. However, they are subject to family Court Orders, and there could be a carve out. I would suggest you obtain...

Can I make my ex wife move if a convicted sex offender moves in right next to her ?

Nothing you can do. The Court will not allow this to happen, because then there will be a flood of family Court cases every time a single sex...

Will I be made to split my daughters derivitive benefit with her father?

The Court will not order it split, if your guys have your own private side deal, thats all it is.

A judge that doesnt believe or care that there is domestic violence, sexual abuse that was unfounded on dad, but mom knows 100%

You probably can't. And if you do, then the new judge will not be fond of you, because they will know you got their buddy in the next room kicked...

How long till you find out if you have won a emergency custody case in NY?

It takes time. a few days is nothing in court, sometimes cases takes years. You may wish to consult with a local attorney for guidance. They are...

If I am a dad with custody of my child and I want to live out of state of ny how can i

You need to file a relocation petition asap. Please speak to an attorney and hire one, as your chances of success will be much improved.