You need to provide more facts here.

Can I file for divorce before her discontinuance goes through?

Try to file your paperwork, or motion to file it. All that will happen if discontinued is that you refile with the same index number.

Its the same as a divorce here, except for the cost serving him, if he will not consent to service. Please speak to an attorney to discuss your case.

If a wife is claiming she is getting public assistance, is there a way to find out if that's true?

You can serve them with discovery demands. They will have to show proof.

The judge issues FRO's not you or your attorney.

Can violations be brought back from family court petition if there was settlement and the judge withdrew them for settlement.

Not if they are old, only if they are new.

Can I sue a major corporation that my husband works Signing a nonfraternizing agreement and then had an ongoing affair

As counsel said, you would need to review the agreement and see if there are any duties owed to you (which there probably aren't).

If you do not serve him then the case will be dismissed. ACS will not open a case against you because you did not proceed.

What will happen to the case?

If you don't serve him the case will be dismissed.

What can I do if Landlord was ordered to repay full rent for gross warranty of habitability violation on Contempt, but didn't?

You should be able to find him in Contempt.