You need to properly serve your husband so he could get notice of your filing. I suggest you retain counsel, to guide you through this process....

What should I do?

You are not entitled to the child support money. Your mom is. She can spend it as she sees fit.

Can I have the father's name removed if it causing me and the child hardship?

Probably not. Its very difficult, if not impossible to accomplish this.

Why does my husband have to be served even though he aleady recieved the court date and paper work for his child support hearing

There is a 5th Amendment protection of Due Process. In order for a law suit to proceed, a person must have proper notice.

What are the perimeters of getting a divorce in new York from getting married in Virginia ?

If you have lived in NYS for the proper amount of time then you can get divorce in NYS. I strongly suggest you consult with a NY Attorney who...

The father of my child has a order of protection to stay away from my daughter . I got in trouble will cps come after me?

It really depends on what you were arrested for. You really should speak with a Family Attorney asap.

How was charge child support ?

You really need to speak to your attorney and figure this mess out. If you don't have one you need to hire one asap. There seems to be allot going...

My husband is on drugs and abundant our home and in and out of rehab but right now I don't know where he is and our first interv

As. the esteemed Ms. Zakarin stated, you need to speak with an attorney asap.

Divorce agreement?

You need to speak with an attorney asap to discuss what the issues are. You need an in person consult so you understand what your rights are.

How do i have an order of protection dropped against my husband who plead guilty to dom. violence & breaking the first OOP?

Well when the cops get involved you lose control of the situation. You need to speak with the DA to see what they can do.