What happens when our father passes and he has a credit card debt

Your father estate is responsible. You may need to speak to counsel.

Restraining order (FRO) and jointed custody?

Unless the order says that he can't do it, then he can do it. You might need to speak to your attorney.

How can I find out if my spouse filed divorce we no longer live in the same state and speaks.

You would have to check there. Its almost impossible to find out.

If I have a restraining order against my ex and his lawyer contacts me to get his property back, is that allowed?

Are you trying to keep his property?

You might want to check the child support order or speak to your attorney.

Will a Judge push for mediation or approve my request for no visitation for a NCP?

If you are saying that dad should have no contact then why would anyone push for mediation. There doesn't seem much to mediate.

If several credit cards are held in husbands name only, can wife be held responsible for them at the time of his death in NJ?

His estate may be liable for them, and if the wife used the cards after he died then there are all sorts of other issues.

I live in the bronx and am married for 7 years, now i was unfaithful to my wife and got a women pregnant she lives in Yonkers.

If you are the father you will be on the hook to help pay for your child's upbringing.

How much will it cost for a Family Court Lawyer In AC NJ ?

As counsel said, please reach out to the local bar association.

In NYS custody and visitation are treated completely separately by the family court.