Can I choose the days my son spends with his father in joint custody. He is taking me to court stating a false accusation

No you cannot. You cannot choose when he gets to spend time with the child. Unfortunatly, the ramifications of splitting up means that both parties...

Can a judge order couples counciling?

Under the law in NY, binding arbitration cannot be used for family court matters. Either you guys settle it on your own or a judge can settle it.

Your landlord will have to go through the normal process of eviction. At the same time, you need to start enforcing your child support receipts....

Defendant filed Answer to uncontested divorce in NY after 70 days after being served. No children nor property. Separated 18 yrs

The clerk might move it to the Contested Calendar. I would speak to an attorney.

How do I go about getting my grandson from South Dakota and file for custody?

If she has been in SD for more than 6 months you will need to initiate an action in SD. If she has been there less than 6 months, NJ has...

I'm on child support but my kids are living with me what can I do ?

You need to file a modification petition in court, and possibly a motion as well.

Can i tell legally my daughter in law to leave my house?

As long as she has lived there for 30 days, you cannot evict her without a court order.

If anyone else has visitation you need to petition the court to grant you permission. I'd speak to an attorney before you do anything.

Who gets the kids if I go to the hospital?

He would have to petition for custody. He should probably do so sooner rather than later.

What are my rights when a parent who has out of state visitation violated the court order

It looks like you need to obtain counsel and act accordingly asap.