I want mutual divorce ?

Please speak to a divorce attorney who can file paperwork for you to file divorce.

DOnt have money?

As counsel said, divorces can only be granted in Superior Court.

Is a notarized agreement for one party to pay the other party the amount of mortgage down payment & the equity upon separation?

You need to speak to your attorney to discuss this.

Does my wife premarital house become marital property?

If the home is premarital then by law it is seperate property. What may be marital is the appreciation of the value of the home during the course...

What if my ex-husband does not show up for a paternity proceeding?

The court may elect to proceed without him. They may give him another shot.

Yes. A child should not have 2 pediatricians.

Please talk to your attorney to discuss what is needed.

What will happen to the person I made a domestic violence report on ?

The worst is that he will go to jail. You may want to talk to the DA's office to see if they will drop anything.

Can visitation be revoked and support supplemented for failure to show up on visitation weekends and week nights?

You cannot revoke visitation. You need to follow a court order. However you can petition the court to modify the schedule because dad does not show...

Do you think I should file for full custody or joint ?

You need to obtain counsel and file a petition asap. Remember, since there is no court order the court will believe whoever has the kid.