Shouldn't pro-rata share of child care and medical expenses be calculated after child support is distributed?

That is incorrect. Child support is considered income to you, not to the payee. Maintenance, which is considered income to the person who receives...

I rent the 2nd floor in a two family house. My son was never on the lease, but came to live with me about 5 years ago

If he has moved out then you can do that immediately.

Enlistment in the military does emancipate a child, however, ROTC may not qualify as official enlistment. You should speak with a local...

I am concern for our child's well-being. Can I seek full custody of our child if I can prove it's in the child's best interest?

Firstly, you need to speak to an attorney as soon as possible. If the child is residing with the two of you, then you need to investigate how...

What should I do?

You need to speak to an attorney regarding this matter.

Should I give my child the fathers last name?

That is up to you.

If both parents live in NY state but the father is living 7 hours away from his child would the court still grant joint custody?

If the father has shown no interest in the child's welfare, most courts will think twice. Moreover, the court cannot grant joint custody unless...

My wife is refusing to sign divorce papers after tentatively agreeing to them in court. Can a judge sign the initial agreement?

If after being served she fails to appear the court will grant the divorce based upon her default.

Its 90 days after the date in which i was served divorce papers default judg has been entered can i ask for an order to show

The only thing that I can add from what my colleague said was that you shall need the aid of an attorney in order to do this.

Is a QDRO required before filing a TRO for depleting a 401K?

The facts and details in a matter such as this are the key to answering your question and there is no way you can include all of that in a question...