What can we do ?

You need the help of an attorney. You can find one here on Avvo.

There is no such thing as automatic divorce. You need to file at the same time.

Hello I'm trying to get custody of my son that lives in another state.

Mr. Schwartz is correct, however, another option is for the Grandmother to give the child to you here in NY. Once that happens, wait at least six...

I have joint custody of my son i want to move 15 miles away nothing will change same school

Your move should not be a problem. The other party may take you back to court over it, however.

I got divorce in 2011. Do I have to put that im divorce in my financial aid application for school?

If the application asks whether you have been divorced, you should answer truthfully.

Child support

So long as she is under the age of 21, you have to continue to pay unless she emancipates herself somehow.

Who pays for before and after school child care during divorce and after divorce?

The parties share those expenses pro rata, but you need to make a motion for pendente lite relief.

May I have my children sleep in the same room as my Girlfriends 11 year old son?

So long as they do not sleep in the same bed and the son is not a known danger to your daughters, you are fine.

My girlfriend was charged with endanger the welfare of a child

I agree with Mr. Rothstien. She needs good representation.

Ex was fired, my insurance is very expensive and has large deductible, Can judge have child put on Child Health Plus?

Unless you are in proceedings before a judge that is up to the two of you.