Either attorney can do the work, so have your attorney revise the paperwork and resubmitt.

It is all of the above, can not afford another lawyer they have drained me

You have not stated any facts that would allow any of us to comment on your matter. Your female-ness does not qualify as a fact.

Petitioner & Attorney didn't show for a final conference on their petition. Should Judge have dismissed?

There is no way for any of us, who were not there, to answer such a question.

What can I do if my ex always to make excuses so I can't talk to our son when he's mad at me or I won't do want he wants?

As my colleagues stated, you need the help of an attorney to get this matter resolved in your favor.

While we can and do answer general questions, the attorney here cannot represent you by remote control. The skills and knowledge associated with...

This is a question that is too complicated to answer in this forum. You need to speak with a locale attorney.

How do I explain to a judge that my job is in jeopardy due to excessive absence for court?

You need to explain this to the judge through your attorney.

Can custody be transferred to a grandmother from a mother through a notarized document?

Only your mother and grandmother can do this and they need to go to Family Court to do so.

Can the NCP pay support in any other form besides through the NYS DCSE? I just want to protect myself in the event of nonpayment

You can do this, however, there will be no record of what is paid, unless you keep one for yourself.

Divorce how to file for one. By yourself

Information is available in the courthouse in the office of self represented.