How can I change a visitation schedule without "extreme changes in circumstances"?

You can go to court and seek a more detailed custody access schedule. You need to demonstrate a change in circumstances, but the mere fact that she...

Can having a lawyer in a child support case help you pay less money than the standard 17%?

You need to discuss your specific situation with an attorney.

How do I complete an uncontested divorce if my husband is in the military overseas and we have never lived together in the US?

If the both of you consent and your state of residence is NY, just hire an attorney to help you.

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We need more facts to really give you an answer, but it sounds like a throw-away petition that needs to be dismissed with the proper representation.

You have no business representing yourself. If your spouse indeed makes this kind of income, you need to have an attorney file a motion for counsel...

What can be done about it?

If you missed the court date you need to file a motion to vacate the default.

With QDRO 401K withdrawal is penalty-free?

You cannot get the money straight. The withdrawal they are referring to is the withdrawal of the funds from the original account to the account for...

Ligament QDRO firm?

I would advise you to use an attorney. These cut rate outfits are problematic.

Is it required that I sign an authorization letter in a divorce case to a former employer regarding my retirement account?

Without knowing anything else, there is no way to answer that question. Acting pro se is never a good idea.

Could I be charged with not abiding by a court order if I now just found out about it

One would have to see the order in order to determine if you are in any danger of having violated it.