How to avoid being accused of blackmailing?

One thing as nothing to do with the other.

Should I notify the bank of the divorce and of my last name change ?

What does your judgement of divorce (and possibly divorce agreement) say?

I am the custodial parent of a 19 yr old. If I pre-decease my ex-husband is he obligated to take my child in? He says no.

Your child is over the age of 18 so he is considered an adult in the eyes of the law. Your ex does have an obligation to support the his child...

Child support arrears...Can I stop my name from being reported to credit bureau

You need to engage the services of an attorney to help you with a downward modification. The mistake you made was paying child support that you...

Custody/visitation order from CA but child now resides in NY

Every sister state must recognize the order. You can enforce the order in CA or NY. In NY you would need to have the order recognized by NY and...

What are my options in this case? Can anything be done to reverse/ overturn this Judges decision?

You need to speak to an attorney. This is what happens when someone wants to represent themselves. They get into a situation when they get a...

I want to change my passport back to my maiden name, what do I need to do? Can I apply for child support in NY state?

If the children reside in NY and the foreign court did not issue a child support order, you can apply in NY. You will need to change your name in...

What becomes of house and vehicles? Neither make enough to pay for all items financed. Do not trust spouse to pay for his part

You need to schedule a consultation with an attorney. You can use the find a lawyer tab or you can speak to one of the attorneys answering this...

How do I appeal a family court order?

If you have additional evidence, you need to file a motion to reargue and renew. Depending on what type of order it is, you may need to file...

Its 20 calendar days, no matter which days they are.