Can my wife and I work out our own custody with out court involvement?

Yes. That will save both parties legal fees. Try to work it out. Another alternative would be to have a mediator try to resolve this issue.

The complaint will be good for at least 2 years.

On what grounds can I file a "stay" petition?

If there is imminent risk, I would suggest filing a petition for emergent relief. Seek a restraining order. "Stay" would not be appropriate in...

Is there a penalty for a teacher assaulting a parent inside of a class with children

Yes. There is a penalty for a teacher assaulting a parent inside of a class with children.

Child custody/PFA

No. You can file a complaint with the administrative office of the courts if you would like.

Absolutely. Courts don't like it when parties lie in court.

Is it law that if the primary custodian can not attend court he/she loses all rights upon default and thus must argue the case?

Depends. Suggest contacting an attorney for individualized assistance. Courts prefer rendering decisions based on the merits of the case as...

Can evidence be submitted in a "Recuse" proceeding to support one's claims?

You can ask the court to reconsider the ruling. There are time limits as to when this reconsideration motion can be filed. Suggest contacting an...

Do I have to give my child his father's last name

No. The naming of a child should be a shared responsibility of both parents.

My son is 14 and got a girl pregnant

Try working it out with her parents. If not, seek court intervention.