Will I need discovery process completed before my early settlement panel meeting?

It depends. If you are comfortable that you're aware of all the assets, debts, and incomes involved then the delay and cost of formal discovery may...

What is the max allowable percentage of ex's pension that I am entitled to via QDRO? Ex refuses to pay alimony.

As others have said, it sounds like it would be a good idea to consult with an experienced matrimonial attorney over this issue. It really doesn't...

The easiest thing in the world for an attorney to do is slow the process down. In Somerset, 18 months is a given. But the bigger question is...

WHAT ARE MY RIGHTS OF BEING MARRIED FOR 9 1/2 yrs? What can/can't I do??

I'm terribly sorry to read what you've been through. As the other answers said, NJ is a no-fault state. Marital misconduct is essentially...

What do I do with the completed rebuttal to my divorce papers? Who do I send them to?

Mail to case management with the filing fee ($175? -- check and be sure). Send copy to your adversary.

That doesn't sound right. The rules are designed so that it is more difficult for an attorney to get out of the case after ESP has occurred, they...

How to add something to an appeal

As others said, it's complex and depends on your facts. That said - the options are generally (1) a motion (filed in the appellate division) for...

Can I get an annulment or do I have grounds for a divorce.

The primary difference between a divorce and annulment is that in an annulment the reason for the split arose prior to the marriage and/or there...

Do you have to list communal property in a divorce if you and your spouse dont want anything from each other other?

No, you don't HAVE TO. You'll have to find an attorney who is comfortable with doing "unbundled legal services" and/or will have you sign a CYA...

Can the divorce be put on hold to try to reconcile?

Agreed with the other answers. Just one suggestion from experience - if a judge says s/he'll dismiss the case, but let you proceed if things don't...