I am better off going to family court or have a private agreement for child support?

As Mr. White pointed out, there are several programs online that will give you an approximate child support calculation. Unfortunately, although...

Is this abduction even though we live in a NON hague convection country?

It sounds like she's filed something here in NJ. Without conceding the NJ is the proper forum to address the issues, you need to oppose her...

What happens now?

If it didn't resolve in mediation, you'll get another court date. As to your concerns, have your proofs - written documentation (can't say what...

Can I make my soon -to-be ex husband pay child support for a non-biological child.

There are published cases on this, but I'm drawing a blank on the name. Yes, under some circumstances, if he's held himself out as the father...

You sound concerned rather than controlling - that's the correct attitude should it go to court. It would really depend on the judge. On the...

If i have Physical custody can the dad take the child out of the country or state without my permission?

He can absolutely take her out of State for vacation (Disney, PA or NY [etc] for the day or weekend). Neither of you can relocate out of State...

Is this Biased intimidation? can a dyfs caseworker have a friendship with a pending foster parent?

DYFS is scary and, in my experience, your concerns are legitimate. I had a matter once where the mother had deep, scary psychiatric issues...

Does a judge normally turn down a request for postponement in a second offense dv case? The charges were dropped in the first.

If the charges were dropped the first time, they can be dropped again - it's not like a deferred disposition of some kind (PTI, etc) where you only...

What should I except after the first custody/visitation hearing?

Expect more delays. The most probable result of the first hearing will be a brief discussion with the judge to see if an agreement can be...

As part of divorce settlement I agreed to resolve future disputes thru mediation and then arbitration.

You've got to try mediation first. File a motion compelling him to attend and then scheduling a court hearing should the issue(s) not be resolved...