By marriage you mean the issuance of a marriage certificate? The answer is clearly no.

It has been 3 years since my divorce, can i seek alimony now?

No unless you can allege and show fraud or something else that would've stopped you from raising the alimony claim at the time of the divorce.

In NJ can a life estate deed be changed if the grantees the grantor assigned separate? or divorce?

There needs to be a new deed. The divorce will cause the property to be bought out by either one of you or sold but will not affect the fact that...

How do Parental Rights work and what do they entail?

You need to establish that something is changed and that you are better off now than you were before.

Will I have to pay child support if I wave paternity?

No. You will still have to pay child unless your right are terminated not waived.

Yes it does apply to you and you need to file that relocation motion.

Do I still need to petition the court to relocate?

Yes you do need to file your relocation motion in order to go to Pennsylvania.

In NJ they use the term equitable distribution instead of 50/50 in divorce.Do most cases still end up with about a 50/50 split?

Yes 50/50 is the norm in most instances.

How can I obtain an attorney at little cost to me for an uncontested divorce?

You need to protect yourself by retaining an attorney.

Can the courts force me to testify against my husband I was mailed a subpoena today

No. You can't be forced to testify again him.