My ex is about to receive his 3rd DUI, but it's been more than 10 years since his 2nd. Can I win primary custody of our son?

You can seek custody and should consider doing so.

Can I obtain CD's from a child custody hearing myself or does an attorney have to do it?

You can order the CD yourself but really should consult with an attorney to protect your interests.

Yes he can ask but he needs consent or court permission.

Insurance

It depends upon the coverages available during the marriage but you should expect maximum coverage for children.

When my court order recommends a parenting coordinator and then suggests one do I have to use the one suggested

You can offer up an alternative parenting coordinator.

How do I get a QDRO? Does a lawyer do that or a CPA?

There may be mention in the divorce agreement about who will handle the QDRO situation.

The father should file a motion in court to get the tax exemption.

Can I respond to an Oposition filled against the motion I filled to revise Child Support and arrears and emancipation?

Yes your reply is due 8 days before the hearing date.

Does it matter where the child sleeps?

You can use public records to fund where he gets his mail and other notices sent.

Destination wedding. Married less than 1yr. 4 children, live in NJ, he works--me stay @ home. How to start divorce process?

You need to file the divorce complaint in the county in which you reside or the divorce grounds arose.