If I need to put a restraining order on my exs gf, can I put one on her for my.son as well so she cant be near him?

It does not appear that you have the grounds to seek a restraining order.

So almost 6 years with knowing/hearing nothing my kid has a friend find me and ask me can I re-adopt them & that my son get hit

It does not seem to be fair to you at all.

Will changing from no fault to fault divorce change things with MESP panel?

Unless there is an issue about wasting assets or causing extreme harm, fault does not matter.

Can I file a motion with the court to rule on the issues if he refuses to cooperate even though it is a collaborative agreement?

There needs to be cooperation or else you should file for enforcement.

Can father get credit for child support??? Any suggestions on emancipation?

There should be something of an adjustment for child support.

My question is Can I use the final restraining order in jersey to cast doubt in new york that she was the abuser but not me?

You can ask another court to recognize a New Jersey Order.

What the law says regarding disclosing income tax, pay stubs and other financial info to the other party when calculating child?

That information is something that you should have received so perhaps there's something else going on.

Does the Appellate Division ever award attorney fees to the other party?

The appellate division can do so if they believe the appeal was frivolous but that should not hold you back.

The question is why that matter was not resolved or mentioned during the divorce.

Can my ex claim my child this year?

The agreement needs to be followed regardless of the situation barring an agreement to the contrary.