You cannot force her to have an abortion, and if the child is yours, you will be "stuck" with raising the child, which would include child support...

I live in Missouri and my lawful wife lives in Iowa we have 3 children together and I was wondering if I could file in my state

The place of marriage is not important. If you meet the residency requirements on Missouri, you can file there. since she meets the residency...

I was recently pulled over for speeding, but then was given a DUI?

Medical marijuana deals with possession and use, not driving while impaired thereby. If it was in your system, you can expect to be charged.

How can I (or my lawyer) argue against spousal support for my ex-wife? I heard there were changes in CA law in 2005 & 2007?

I assume you hired a lawyer, and are paying them money for their advice. Take advantage of that resource.

Can not afford a lawyer wife left the home 2 years ago i am on ssd and not healthy i put everything in her name

Call your local bar association for a referral. Explain your situation to them.

Can employed ex-spouse request spousal support given we have no children and were married 2-1/2 years and family law code 4322?

Ask, yes. Get, maybe. as the prior attorney stated, get a good attorney.

What constitutes cohabitation in regards to my divorce order stating alimony will cease at marraige or cohabitation

This is a very fact-sensitive issue. The only answer that an attorney can give you and be sure it is correct, is to say, "cohabitation is whatever...

Is it worth filing for past due child/spousal support if he paid me directly by check and not through the clearinghouse in AZ?

You want him to be forced to "do the right thing", but you want to deny receipt of money that you did receive, under oath? Seriously? Moral...

If my spouse has been in a relationship with another person our whole marriage, how soon can i file for alimony/ spousal support

You can file for divorce immediately.

Does husband pay back child support and alimony, if we didn't file yet& he left in '06& kids are adult now?

Those are many facts, and confusing at that. With all these issues, you should consult/hire a divorce attorney ASAP.