Why can’t my son leave to his home state and file custody

If the children reside in NJ, NJ is the only state that will have jurisdiction over the children.

My boyfriend has been legally separated from his wife for over 37 years in nj

There is no legal separation in NJ. Should could come and take half the house. He really should divorce her.

Can I get an action to establish paternity dismissed prior to the court date? Is her appearance at the hearing mandatory?

If you are so certain that you are not the father, take the test. It will forever eliminate you from consideration.

Divorce - Modification of Life Insurance Amount

See my prior response to duplicate question.

Divorce - Modification of Life Insurance Amount

Maybe. But generally the need for life insurance goes down the longer alimony has been paid, because the presumed loss due to death goes down the...

What is the procedure of getting a divorce in NJ if my husband and I got married in Japan (he is Japanese and I am US citizen)?

The place you were married is irrelevant. If you have resided in NJ for 1 year or more, NJ has jurisdiction and you can file here. Speak with a...

Tell the truth. Say you don’t want to proceed. Do not Le.

Regarding my daughter

Ignore them. They have no chance of getting custody.

She would need a court order permitting her to move out of state with the children. But if she does obtain an order, he would have to pay child...

What happens now

You said she didn’t file charges. Is there a restraining order? What is the question?