It will take about a week for USCIS to send the RFE after status online indicates it was issued.

Indicate the name at the time of birth if the BC indicates this and there is a legal name change document.

It is based on receipt acknowledgment by USCIS.

Yes you may and this should not detrimentally impact your case.

It will take between 16-24 months for consular processing for your spouse.

Yes unauthorized work for adjustment through marriage to USC can be waived.

Yes but you will need a basis for obtaining the GC through family or employment means.

Best to have an attorney review the offenses and obtain the certified criminal docket sheets.

No this should not be a line of questioning.

This is entirely the officer’s discretion to determine.