I suggest contacting the NJ Consumer Protection Agency at: (973) 504-6200.
The Texas attorney general's office handles consumer complaints in Texas. They may be found at: https://www.oag.state.tx.us/consumer/complain.shtml . I will also post this topic on my blog at: www.thekoreanlawblog.com
You will need to have a driver's license and an insurance card to leave the car lot. In theory, it is possible to get a loan without a SSN, however, the major loan companies will not give you one without a SSN.
I suggest contacting the school and seeing if they will compensate for the difference between the cost of on-campus housing versus off-campus housing. Also, it may be good idea to talk to the other incoming students. Often you will have an orientation day and during orientation it is possible to have your child find a roomate.
Additionally, contact the other schools he was accepted to. I bet they still have spots even if you didn't pay the deposit.
Check Craigslist also. You often...
You may file for divorce in NY. You need to meet the residency requirments and also serve your wife. Call a local NY family attorney and they will be happy to assist. If you need a referral - I suggest Zoltan "Andy" Simon. He can be found on this site or you can contact him at: email@example.com. His office is on Wall Street near the exchange.
The Fifth Amendment is only a protection against "self-incrimination." Since, you are not incriminating yourself you are not protected by the Fifth Amendment.
Call the DA and ask the DA about protection options.
Another great tool for finding an attorney is this site. Do a basic search and read the attorney profile and type of cases worked on and you are likely to find an attorney that fits your needs.
You do have the possibility to obtain asylum based on religious persecution. One case is documented here ---http://sarmientoimmigration.com/2011/03/01/asylum-approval-for-chinese-client-in-virginia-persecution-on-account-of-religion/