we were not married but lived together for 20 years we have 4 kids together he packed and left the end of october and told me he will only pay the mortgage because that is all I am entitle to what should I do need advice please.
If the children are living most of the time with you, it would be smart to go to the DSHS Division of Child Support to have them help you establish child support. It is possible, however, that the amount of support may not be as much as the house payment that your ex is paying. An interview with a highly qualified family law attorney could help you evaluate this decision. Because you have been together a long time, you may have assets owned together, regardless of whose name is on the asset. The retirement earned during a committed intimate relationship is often the largest asset and most overlooked one. Please get advice and I hope you can work things out by agreement for a positive co-operation parenting together in the future.See question
Wife has been seeing this guy for 7 months. I do not want my kids at his house or around him. Will a restraining order do this?
Parents can not control who the other parent exposes the children to during their residential time unless you can show that that particular person is harmful or dangerous to the children. Lots of people who break up get upset about the new partner of the person they used to be with, but parents can't control what happens in the other parent's home and you wouldn't want this control on you, either. It seems to make sense to me for you to go ahead and get a divorce. This situation is not improving just sitting around. I do strongly recommend at least having a consultation with a really good family law attorney. Doing so can save you a lot of time, money and grief. Good luck getting through all this with the least damage to you and your kids (and even the least damage to your ex - she needs to be a good mom, after all).See question
He also hasn't had any physical or verbal contact with the child in 2 years as he lives in Texas.
If another person is standing ready to adopt your child, then it seems very likely to me that you would be successful in getting that adoption successfully completed. Be very careful who you allow to be the other parent of your child. You already have one failed other parent in your child's life. If there is no adoption, then the best you can do is go to court for a new parenting plan that restricts all contact and gives you full rights to make all decisions for your child. You would also want to have the orders specifically say that you can have full rights to get a passport for and travel with your child without the other parent having any say so, in case you need to go out of the USA with your child while he/she is a minor.See question
I'm paying child support, I have a no contact order against me which bars me from seeing my ex-wife and children for the next 2 years, I want to start the process of giving up full parental rights, one child child is biologically mine and the othe...
I am sorry that this situation exists, with orders preventing you from seeing your children for two years. That is a sad story. You already are restricted, for the next two years, in your parental rights. You can probably reduce the time of that restriction through the court, though, if you make the effort. If you want to change that so you can have a relationship with your children, I encourage you to see what the court orders require of you and follow through. Your children should have a loving father (and there is absolutely no difference between being an adoptive father and a biological father as far as parenting rights and responsibilities).
If you care about your children, you should seriously think about finding ways to have at least some contact with them to support and nurture them when you are allowed to by court order. I've known of cases where the mother drove the father off and he figured that it was more harmful to struggle to stay in contact and gave up. Then the child was harmed by other people that the mother allowed in their lives and the child had no one else to turn to because the father had abandoned his responsibility to be a safe haven that the child could reach out to.
If you do not attempt to have contact or interaction with your children by doing what you must and making the effort to be a real parent, then you are giving up your parental rights by virtue of not acting upon your rights. The responsibility to provide for your children financially will continue as long as they are dependent children, unless another person (usually a new spouse of the other parent) steps up to adopt and you agree to the adoption. At that time, you would become no longer a legal parent and would have no rights and no responsibilities to these children.See question
If I'm filing for divorce on washington state but still having sex with my soon to be ex husband will it dismiss the divorce?
People get divorced for a lot of reasons. They also have sex with someone for a lot of reasons. Those two things are not linked legally and it has no effect on a divorce case for the two people who are divorcing each other to choose to have sex with each other or not to have sex with each other. I hope that you find the right path for yourself and move on to a better future.See question
Here I am once again. I'm a single mom and I need help getting one of my children back. I have money so that is not an issue. I just want my daughter back.
I strongly recommend looking up any lawyer you consider hiring using google and various lawyer rating sites. See how they handled it if they got any negative ratings (which could happen to any lawyer, even very good ones). If a lawyer has lots of negative ratings from former clients, I recommend steering clear of them. Years of experience and how much of their practice focuses on family/divorce/custody/child support law are also good indicators of possible quality work. More is usually better for these things. Make sure the lawyer regularly practices in the court where your case is located.
Best wishes to you. I hope you and your daughter are able to have a wonderful relationship.See question
im paying child support, I have a no contact order against me which bars me from seeing my kids and my ex in any way shape or form until April of 2017, if I give up full custody to my ex, do I still have to continue to pay child support?
This sends like a very sad situation to me. Some kind of serious problems are present, for you or for your ex (or both) for such an order to exist. If you love and care about your children, I encourage you to move heaven and earth to do the things the court has said you must do to be in your kids' lives.
I am guessing that you are a dead of some wonderful children who need you. (If you are a mom, this applies, too.) Your children deserve to have a father who loves them. Sometimes, a mother who takes the steps to bar the father from the children thinks she is doing the right thing, but then sometimes life later overwhelms her and she fails to protect or fails to provide for them. With way to turn to their vanished other parent, kids' lives can be destroyed.
If there is another really good person standing ready to adopt your children and you think that is best for them, then that is when it may be ok to allow yourself to resign your parenting duties. Otherwise, please love your kids and do everything in your power to make their lives better.
The other lawyers are right that parents must financially support their children, even if they don't see their children. I hope you take care of yourself so that you can care for your children.See question
I have custody of my kids they visit their dad on weekends he just got a new job and move to guys from his new job into the home I asked to get a background check and he refuses custody of my kids they visit there dad on weekends he just got a new...
Although your anxiety is understandable, your question seems to presuppose that these people who are around your children on weekends are dangerous just because they are male. I recommend asking if you can meet these people and having open discussions with your ex and with your children to see how weekends are going. Hopefully, you can meet these gentlemen and get a better feeling for whether there is truly anything to worry about. If there are any warning signs beyond your anxiety due to the gender of these people, please do talk with a really good family law attorney. Background checks are fine, but they are a wholly insufficient way to protect kids if legitimately alarming things are happening. Your children's own good judgment and appropriate awareness of safety are the very best defense they can have.
The law presumes that each parent will use their best judgement about which people the children will be exposed to when in that parent's care. Controlling which people the other parent has as roommates or childcare providers is generally not allowed. You should not be afraid of people being around your kids, just based upon thepeople being male instead of female. Your kids are old enough to report if something is wrong. if there are warning signs, follow up, but don't look foolish and overly controlling and thus lose your credibility. If something really concerning happens, you want to be listened to instead of discounted because you previously suspected people unfit to be around your kids for no legitimate reason.
I think that the other attorney answers assumed that you have some other legitimate reason to fear these men. I am not making that assumption. I also want to mention that changing a parenting plan is not terribly easy and you should at least consult with a good family law attorney before bringing such a case. It costs you and your children much more (and worse) than money when your family is again embroiled in litigation. Maybe a really good attorney can help you figure out better solutions.See question
I have been married for 5 years and have two sons the Age of 4 and 2 respectively. my wife moved out of my Home for over a year now and all efforts to reconcile us failed . The senior son is staying with me and my mother while the younger one with...
I am answering your question in the hope that you will seek advice from a good family law attorney and perhaps from a counselor who can work as a mediator or adviser about what is best for your children. It seems very very strange if your wife was able to legally change your younger child's name without notice to you. It is also odd for her to leave your child with her mother without notifying you. I recommend that you try communicating in a positive way, with the help of your family law attorney, with the maternal grandmother and find a way to reunite your sons if that is the best thing for them.
The other lawyers are right that now is the time to act. My best wishes to you in handling this in a way that is least traumatic for you and for your sons.See question
If a child support agreement includes payment for part of "unreimbursed medical and dental" expenses, if one parent does not agree to paying for orthodontics, can a WA court consider this a dental expense under a typical child support agreement o...
I know that it is harsh to be expected to pay thousands of dollars for orthodontia. It is also very harsh for a young person to have to go through life with crooked teeth and discomfort about how they look. Please consider your child's well being before insisting that you don't agree to pay for part of dental work. This can make you look bad and cause angry feelings that can last a very very long time. Also, you should know that it is not particularly rare for orthodontics to be medically necessary. Being able to chew and properly close one's mouth can avoid many kinds of other health problems. Best wishes for making wise decisions on this matter.See question