You need to consult with a local attorney as soon as possible. The attorney can review all the relevant papers and give you specific legal advice regarding your rights.
If you would like to obtain legal advice about your situation, I am available to consult with you at your convenience. The initial consultation (30 minutes) is free. If you would like my assistance, please contact me at 916 925-6005.
Yes, children should be with one parent or the other. If your ex is leaving town for any extended period of time, the children should be with you. However, depending on the age of the children, there may be plans in place which the children would enjoy keeping. You should make an informed considered decision, even though you were not consulted.
Restraining Orders are used to prevent harassment, threats, or the like, not to prevent contact between minors. If the boyfriend is not a minor and your daughter is a minor, sexual contact between them is a crime.
You need to consult with an attorney to review all your paperwork and determine your legal options. Many attorneys will meet with you to review papers at a reduced rate, or provide limited free consultation.
If there is an agreement on all issues and the proper papers are completed, a Judgment of Dissolution of Marriage can be obtained without anyone needing to appear in Court. The key is to have an agreement on all issues and to complete all needed paperwork!