In reality, it's very difficult to get an attorney to take on a case for free - although most of us are in this profession to help people, we cannot survive without payment. If you are unrepresented because of financial strain, and your ex has a greater income, then consider a request that your ex pay for an attorney for you based on Family Code section 2030 (need and ability to pay).
You just have too many facts to ferret through over the internet, and I am confused about the TRO, who won at small claims, what the "judgment hearing" was about.. At the very least, call the attorney back and let them know (and put in writing to that attorney) that you were not given notice of any hearing.
I can not tell if you are in Colusa, El Dorado or San Diego county. Regardless, I advise you consult with a legal aid attorney in your area. So long as you are a low-income client, a...
Assuming the child is fully able: If the child is 18 years old, a full-time high school student, and not self-supporting, the duty to pay child support extends until the child is 19 years old or completes 12th grade, whichever is sooner. (For your purposes, it sounds like child support ends at age 18 or graduation from high school, whichever is later.)
You were betrayed, and your anger is justified. At the same time, this child knows you as his dad. You ARE his dad. Nothing can change that.
I will re-tag the question for the personal injury attorneys; but my colleague is right, unless mom has money, it likely won't be worth your effort.
Court is a "restraining order-free" zone. You will not get into any trouble for showing up at the hearing, nor will your boyfriend get in any trouble if you are there. I advocate for honesty with the court.
As a reminder: Do NOT drive with him to court, do NOT hang out near him in the hallway, do NOT talk in the hallway. And please keep in mind that if there is a restraining order, there is usually a reason. Keep yourself safe.
I advise against including your child in this legal proceeding; especially if this is just about money. Trust your gut - you really want a 15 year-old subject to cross-examination? d how will a judge perceive the willingness of a parent to do so? Better to shield your child from the hostility and conflict.
I have re-tagged this so appropriate counsel can weigh in on the larger question of a personal injury suit.
As to a landlord/tenant issue, it sounds like you have the basics of a habitability suit wherein you could ask for a return of the rent paid for the period of time mold was an issue.
Childcare is a cost that it is mandatory to divide, private school is not a mandatory cost. The answer in this case may depend on the definition of "private school." If it is a private child care center, and it is necessary for employment, then that will be called "child care." If it is a private elementary on up, then it is a separate cost and likely cost-prohibitive; therefore, if one parent insists on private school, they can pay for it. (Be aware, though, the court does not like changing...