If your husband has filed a divorce action you should proceed in that action. You can file for temporary support and possession of the house in the divorce action. If one person wants a divorce, it will be granted.
You should see an experienced family law attorney to discuss your options.
I would suggest that you find an experienced attorney in your area that can do a free consultation for you to go over the specific details. You should not let your husband try to influence or scare you.
You should sit down with an experienced family law attorney to discuss this in detail. There may be ways to protect your retirement depending on the circumstances, including the date of separation. Also, you can send a notice to your retirement to protect it until the divorce is final.
They may be taking about Family Support which is a combination of Child Support and Spousal Support and has the same tax consequences as Spousal Support -- which is deductible to the payer and taxable income to the payee.
Collaborative law is supposed to benefit all parties. If you are feeling uncomfortable or that it is not fair, you may want to have a consultation with a separate attorney to go over what is happening and whether your feelings are justified.
You need to try to find a pro bono lawyer. Contact your local bar association. Contact the self help center at your courthouse. Search the internet. At the very least seek a free consultation from a local lawyer. Good luck !
This is a difficult situation. I would suggest going to a family therapist to discuss your relationship with him. If he won't go with you, then go alone. I also suggest consulting with a family law attorney so that you know what your legal options are - especially the amount of support he should be paying.
If there is no custody action or custody order then she can move. Filing and serving a Paternity or Custody Case will stop her from being able to move from the State pending the action.
Consult with an attorney immediately if you want to preserve your rights.