Your landlord must pay the utilities if the lease calls for it. A 3 days notice cannot be sent to everyone for the non-payment of one person. If each person has a separate lease you are not responsible for another persons. If the water has been turned off you unit is now uninhabitable and you may claim damages if the landlord does not remedy the situation.(Civil Code 1942.4)
I practice Family Law in Fresno and my colleague is correct. Usually (depending on what the response is to) the courts are not that strict on late responses, which is actually a good practice. If you complain it is late the court can continue the matter. It's going to be heard so why not hear it on the day it is supposed to be. The best thing to do is try to meet with the other party before court and see if you can reach some sort of agreement.
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Family Code section 3040, " the court shall consider, among other factors, which parent is more likely to allow the child frequent and continuing contact with the non-custodial parent."
I would retain an attorney from you area and file a Request for Orders modifying the current custody/visitation orders. I would say you have enough in your favor to obtain a ruling in your favor.
If you have a court date coming up I would suggest filing a Supplemental Declaration letting the Court know what is going on when it is just you two. You must say this in a form that is not bashing the other side. You can mention that most of the problems come from his current wife and not from the two of you.
The court looks at the best interest of the child Family Code 3011. Your ex can not just move with the child, she is going to have to file a Motion.
The court is going to look at why the mother has moved the child so much in the last 5 years and what the purpose of the requested move is. Is the move motivated by bad faith, meaning is she just trying to keep the child away from you and is the move in the best interest of the child.
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Motions to set aside are normally granted however you have some facts that could possibly overcome his excuses for not showing. The fact that you reminded him and he text you the day before could be held against him. Be sure you have the text message in paper form and file it with your response.