In California there is a specific statute that says the court should NOT hold it against you if you left the home to keep the peace. You are in exactly the situation that this statute was developed to deal with. In general, it is NOT in the children's best interests to be in a home where abuse is occurring. In fact, in most jurisdictions, if you STAY in an abusive relationship and you have children, the children can potentially be removed from your custody for your FAILURE TO PROTECT them...