See http://www.justice.gov/eoir/probono/freelglchtCA.htm. Also, you can check www.aila.org for immigration attorneys. Many immigration attorneys, like myself, set up payment plans for our clients. Good luck.
You have to persuade your father to give you the evidence you need. If it is a family petition, ask your uncle/aunt/or grandparents (petitioner) for the copy of the I-130. That may be another route. If it was employment based, you need your father's cooperation. Good luck.
Assuming you meet the requirements, you child may be a US citizen. You have two options when dealing with your girlfriend. However, since you may have to travel to register your child with the US embassy, you probably should get married once you are there and begin the process for your future wife. Good luck.
If you were paroled under section 212(d) of the Immigration & Nationality Act, then you do not need to reopen your deportation case to apply. However, if you were released on supervision I do not think you were paroled. Take your release documents to an experienced immigration attorney to determine if in fact you were paroled.
Generally, your marriage in the US means you are married everywhere. Unless a specific country has specific laws regarding that point. You may have to consult with a Jordanian family law lawyers. Regarding the other issues, consult with a family law attorney in your state.
You can file a petition for her and provided you are able to document the relationship, the I-130 should be approved. Her stop at the border in 2007 may be problematic. If she used fake documents to try to enter, she will need a waiver for the misrepresentation. She can only qualify for the waiver if she has legal permanent resident or US citizen parents or spouse. If she did not use fake documents, she may still need a waiver if she was expeditiously removed. Consult with an experienced...
"but I was still recently abducted."
I am glad to read that it appears you are free again. I think you may have to find an attorney that practices extra terrestrial law and is admitted to the Supreme Court of the Universe. Good luck with that search.